Modesty: Almost a thing in the past.
It was just a year ago that Abercrombie and Fitch had padded bikini tops designed for 8-14 year olds. Yes, it sparked outcry, but what was disturbing to me is that the concept was even formed!
Just walking through the children's section of any clothing store you see swimsuits revealing more and more body, inappropriate words written on the seat of pants, and more see through, v-cut shirts! IN THE LITTLE GIRL SECTION! These clothes are designed for children ranging in age from 6 to young teen, but they aren't clothes that my children will be wearing.
I know that to many the word modesty ranges in definition. A spaghetti strap tank might be modest to one, while anything less than short sleeves is considered un-modest to another. Some agree that a two piece swimsuit can be modest, while others think that only a one piece could be considered modest.
Putting all that aside, let's talk about a few things that should be taken into consideration.
Recently while swimsuit shopping for my daughters, I searched the internet for "modest swimsuits". Needless to say, there were some that I considered over the top as far as modesty goes... I mean, they were full body, head to toe suits! The more and more I searched for swimsuits, the more discouraged I became. Why was it so hard to find something that I considered appropriate for my 6, 7, and 8 year olds! I don't even understand why they have two piece bikinis that are v-necked anyway. A friend of mine said it best when she said that since we don't send our kids out to swim in their underwear, why buy indecent swimwear! I was finally able to find one piece swimsuits for my two youngest daughters, that were high enough on the chest, and covered their bottom. We avoided the ones that had the sides cut out or dipped in the front. My oldest daughter chose a nice two piece suite, that had a long tankini for the top and boy shorts for the bottom. Again, there were no v-cuts. I know there are moms who don't see what the problem is for young girls to dress a certain way, but we need to realize that our daughters will one day grow up to be young ladies and I want them to maintain modesty even then! If we allow them to wear a revealing bikini now- even if there isn't anything to reveal now- they will only grow up with the mindset that it's ok.
Another reason to think about modesty is because we shouldn't be tempting others. Yes, I want to dress in a way that attracts my husband, but I don't want to attract other men's attention. Men struggle and we don't need to give them more reasons to struggle. I don't want my daughters (or myself) to ever cause a man to stumble. Even accidentally.
When wearing dresses, we look for dresses that are long enough. Shirts that don't show their belly. We wear tights under our skirts or dresses until we are old enough not to "flash" others.
My girls have enjoyed "putting on makeup" or wearing "perfume" from an early age, but they only do that because they see me do it. I don't wear a lot of makeup, just a little eyeshadow or mascara and when I "put it on the girls" I put it to where nobody else can see it. It makes them smile thinking they look like mommy though. They won't be wearing makeup for a while though, and when they do I will make sure to teach them how to apply it so that it keeps them modest- enhancing their natural beauty.
Modesty begins at home and modesty begins at a young age. You, as mom, should set the example. Look diligently for clothes that keep our girls modest! They are out there, but they are harder and harder to find.
We don't have to let our girls wear short shorts, revealing tops, or dressing older than they really are. It's time we take control of our children and bring back modesty!
How do you define modesty? What are you doing to instill modesty in your children?