"She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness." Proverbs 31:27
I've always wanted to be more like the Proverbs 31 woman. And while I still have many more things to work on so I can be more like her, I have recently noticed that I'm more like her than I was a couple years ago.
In the last few months I've added to the list of things that I make myself. It's been a slow add, but steadily and surely I'm making more and more things from scratch. My grocery bill is decreasing. My family is happier with the homemade goodies. I feel good knowing that I'm looking well to my household by making my own cleaners and detergents.
But with the knowledge that I'm becoming more like the great example outlined in Proverbs 31 comes more responsibility.
I want my children to rise up and call me blessed. I want my husband to praise me!
Since I want to whole-heartily embrace the role that I was created for, I need to step my game up and look at the rest of Proverbs 31 for direction.
"The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life." Proverbs 31:11-12
Can my husband trust me? Am I making sure his needs are taken care of? Am I doing good to him? This has a lot to do with our attitudes, ladies. Do we roll our eyes when he's telling us about a new project he wants to start? Are we giving him time and attention, even when we don't feel like it? Are our words and actions encouraging and building for him? PMS does not give us a reason to be mean, berate, or ignore our husbands!
"She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar." Proverbs 31:13-14; "She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard." Proverbs 31:16; "She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple." Proverbs 31:22
Laziness? Unmotivated? Does this describe you? I hope not, but if it does, drop to your knees right now and call out to the Lord for help! Girls, I'm telling you... This lady had it together! She sought things that she could do with her hands. That alone lets me know that she was neither lazy nor was she unmotivated! We might not work with wool or flax, and we might not have to go far to find food, but are we as diligent as she was? Back in October my very crafty aunt came to visit. She attempted to show me how to quilt and knit. I couldn't ever figure out how to get the needles to work properly for knitting and the quilting hasn't came far either. Trust me, I understand that not everyone is equipped to sew the family clothing, but come on! Are you one of the ones that just buy whatever they find because it's easy? Do you just feed your family the quickest, most convenient meals because it's just that- quick and convenient? This is one area that I am managing in. Because we live in a rural area and our grocery stores aren't topped notch, I do have to sometimes search for food. I want to be known as productive, so when I buy clothes I try to make sure that I'm getting a good deal- same with food. And speaking of food, she was a gardener. She lived off the land. She was careful to take care of her family in the best way possible. I'm not a gardener, but I've been researching ways that I can be more self-sufficient.
"She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens." Proverbs 31:15
Oh, Lord, please help me! I am so not a morning person. I get up when the kids get up. It's a true desire of mine to wake before my household. I've done it before and it was splendid (once I woke up completely!). The still of the house. The quiet time with my Father. Feeling like I got a jump start on the day! I'm not a morning person though! This lady was able to get her morning started without a bunch of distractions and it made her more of the wonderful woman she was! We need to start our day out right! I encourage you to take matters into your own hands... before the day gets good and going, before distractions wake up and take over, have some time with God and get your household ready to embrace each morning! It's a challenge that I'm going to start making a bigger effort in!
"She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy." Proverbs 31:20
The needy. Those truly in need. In today's day and age sometimes its hard to reach out to the needy. We don't always know who is in need and who just wants our money. Listen to your hearts, the Lord won't mistake who He directs you to! Fix a meal for someone going through a hard time. Send a card to someone struggling. Next time you walk by someone looking for a handout and you feel that prick in your heart, listen! Open your eyes! Ask God to send someone your way!
Her amazing attributes go on and on...
She was physically strong.
She was smart.
She wasn't hasty.
She loved her family and showed them through her actions and words.
She was a hard worker.
She used her skills to benefit her and her family.
She thought of others.
She spoke with love.
I don't believe the Proverbs 31 Woman can ever be 100% achieved, but it's a goal worth working towards.
What will you do today to be more like her?